Live to Dive Another Day

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A few short months after returning from a blissful, sun-drenched vacation at Hideaway Island, Vanuatu where I completed my Open Water dive certification, my picture-perfect world was turned upside down. I discovered that I had advanced endometrial cancer. To be honest, I’d been having symptoms for many months, but it had taken me a long time to admit to myself that they were becoming severe and needed further investigation. After explaining that I was too young to have this disease and outlining all the gory details of the life-saving, life-changing surgery I would need to have quickly, the oncologist asked if I had any questions. I asked him how soon I would be able to dive again.

In August 2010, my radical hysterectomy was performed via robot to reduce the risk of infection, but the massive infection I contracted afterwards almost killed me anyway. The road to recovery was very long, very slow and very, very painful. For close to a year, I couldn’t work, couldn’t drive and I certainly couldn’t dive. I cried because I desperately wanted to walk my twin Golden Retrievers Sophie and Jake, but I couldn’t even manage the simplest of tasks for myself.

Yet somehow, peaceful memories of floating through the ocean became my primary motivation to get myself well. Every moment that my tired body ached, I craved salt water against my skin, longing to glide like a bright fish through streaming sunlight. Instead, I was confined to my bed or landlocked on the couch, desperately trying not to feel so sorry for myself.

It felt like a lifetime before I finally found the physical strength to pull on my gear to try a tentative dive under a shallow, local pier. But quickly my passion to spend as much time underwater became an obsession! Most weekends, some kind soul would drive me for an hour to dive beneath one of five local piers where I gradually spent up to two hours per tank of air. And as passionate as I was about being submersed, my greatest thrill was sharing all the blissful marine critters I encountered with those I considered to be ‘dive-deprived’ through my underwater images and videos.

Those who knew me best made jokes about my newfound OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Diving). But they also understood that my intense passion was helping me to rise above my diagnosis. For almost two years, I lived as though I had never been sick at all, diving almost every weekend. Even winter couldn’t keep me out of the water, diving at night in 8 degrees celcius in a 7 mm wetsuit til I was so cold I could barely feel my feet or my face.

I seized an opportunity to travel alone to the Philippines to take part in an intensive underwater photography workshop, doing thirty-eight dives in ten days but still craving more. How sweet and wonderful and bright was life, now finally out of the shadow of death! How I felt myself grow stronger and more full of life with each and every dive.

Conquering cancer and facing my own mortality had made me completely fearless. When the opportunity arose in 2013 to dive in Fiji with bull, nurse and lemon sharks, I dived in with both fins on to cross this awesome experience off my bucket list. But while I returned from this vacation elated, my strong suspicions that something wasn’t quite right were quickly confirmed.

Despite my surgery a few years prior, the cancer had begun to invade my body again; the carefree life I had rebuilt for myself spiralled out of my sight, sinking like a lost weight pocket from the sunniest surface to the darkest ocean floor. Again, all diving was put on hold until further life-saving action could be taken.

The prognosis for patients with recurrent, advanced stage endometrial cancer isn’t very inspiring. I had five surgeries in six months with massive complications. Wounds that wouldn’t heal. More than 160 days in or at hospital in less than a year, not counting the endless, murky surge of doctor and specialist appointments. Then just as the surface started to calm, new tumours appeared in my lymph nodes, making the prognosis even more grim. I was scheduled to begin six weeks of daily radiation combined with weekly chemotherapy.

But as the waves crashed over my head again and again and again, I resisted the urge to panic and allowed myself just to pause and breathe. And when I weighed the odds and risks of treatment against the small chance I’d been given that it might do me any good, I made the decision to take matters into my own hands.Every battle is won and lost in the mind. I knew that while the doctors and surgeons had addressed the symptoms of the disease, they clearly hadn’t addressed the causes of my illness or been able to prevent it from recurring.

Strangely, I felt empowered, deciding for myself that every choice I would make from this point forward must be dictated by my need to regain and sustain my health. I did mountains of research and adopted lots of lifestyle changes and protocols, including organic tumour-fighting food combinations and negotiating a part-time return to work once I was strong enough to do so. I refused to feel helpless or to just lie down and die. Instead, I chose to dive for my life.

When I refused conventional treatment, I asked my specialists their opinion on this. My original oncology team disowned me when I rejected their treatments, so I replaced them with a team of hand-picked specialists who agreed to be my sounding boards as I continue to navigate my journey in my own death-defying way. ‘You’ve obviously chosen quality of life over duration,’ some told me. ‘You should do whatever makes you happy, because without this treatment, you’ve only got a couple of years to live.’

But what they still don’t seem to understand is this: in my game of ‘rock, paper, scissors’, scuba beats chemo. I am absolutely determined to reclaim my health, but on my own terms.  Ocean therapy is restoring my battered mind, body and soul. Every minute I spend underwater renews my spirit and extends my life, helping me appreciate every uncountable minute that I have left to walk this planet and to dive its oceans even more.

Even though I’m unable to carry my own heavy dive gear because of some post-surgery complications, I have the most incredible people in my life who care enough to help me get in and out of the water any weekend that the weather permits (plus, there’s usually valet diving oversees if my husband and I can scrape the pennies together for another vacation!)

When I am underwater, I truly feel fully alive, and I bring that life back with me to the surface to sustain me until I can descend again. Having cancer reminds me how precious life truly is and only inspires me to celebrate being alive even more intensely. Every day is a gift from above and every dive is a blessing below. Every life is a wonder to behold, whether critter or human, ending young or growing old.

By sinking to the ocean floor, I transcend the worries of the world above, returning each time with something unique to celebrate. I intensify my joy by sharing my passion through my underwater photography and videos, encouraging others to deepen their own sense of awe and wonder about the glorious planet they too will only inhabit for a time.

I have recently started the blog called Pink Tank Scuba (pink is the colour that makes me feel filled to overflowing with life, and I would paint the world pink if I could!) And while I’m very honest about the ongoing, daily challenges I face with my health, I never let this illness overshadow my sheer bliss at the amazing critters I have the privilege of sharing the ocean with, and the greater bliss that comes from sharing them with the world.

Hovering above the ocean floor, looking up through the water at that shimmering, life-giving  golden sun on the other side provides a whole new perspective. A different perspective transforms fear into awe, and the salty tears of self-pity into an ocean of life-giving laughter.

I live to laugh. I live to dive. I live to simply be alive.  I am filled with gratitude. And for now, I live to dive another day.

Love and Bubbles ,

PT xxx

12 thoughts on “Live to Dive Another Day

  1. Beautifully written. I feel so priveledged to be able to share some of your world with you through your words. Thank you. 🙂 xxx

    • Tank you Bonnie for journeying with me since we were just 14 years old! You’ve been by my side hot air ballooning and you’ve cried with me in hospital. I love you to bits, my precious friend! Biggest love and pinkest bubbles, PT xxx

  2. I’m so privileged to have been able to Dive with you. You are like a little girl full of love for life & adventure. We are looking forward to diving with you once again. My sweet lovey. I’m so proud & privileged to have you in my life. 💋💋💋💋❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • Texas Momma, that’s one of the things I love most about travelling and diving – the beautiful people who come into your life and never leave! You have been such an amazing blessing to me since we met in Fiji – your encouragement during my darkest times lifted my spirits back into joy. No-one else has ever sent me so many beautiful cards 🙂 You are such an amazing lady and I love you with all of my heart. I hope we get to dive with you again somewhere in the world next year. Biggest love and pinkest bubbles, PT xxx

  3. After my hysterectomy I had an e-coli infection that went undiagnosed for about 3 months. Finally the sent a sample to the lab … sheesh. The antibiotics they gave me were huge. Of course, I was prompted to ask, “Are these oral or anal?” Yea, they were right unimpressed with me! jajajaja.

    One day I’m going to have to learn to dive. I suspect through reading your blog that my snorkel will begin to feel … inadequate!

    • I feel your pain, Loca Gringa 😦 My hyster was such a complicated nightmare – every time they cut me to ‘fix’ me, I seem to wind up with an even greater problem – infections are just the worse :-S At least you could maintain your sense of humour, and sometimes I think that’s what gets us through the worst of it. I think when you are back on your feet, any snorkelling or diving you can do in salt water is just so healing, therapeutic and reconnecting. Obviously I’m a bit biased, but an introductory dive somewhere sometime if your back is up for it could just change your life 🙂 Love and healing bubbles, PT xxx

      • Rightn now i’m recovering from a motorcycle accident. I hope I’m not grounded for too long. It’s tough living 300 feet from the ocean in the Caribbean and not being able to go in. But yes, a lesson is in order. Soooooooooooon!

      • So jealous about where you live! I drive about an hour for each dive. So sorry to hear about your accident – yikes 😦

      • Ah but you have far superior diving there 😉 Though, if you ever come out this way, I’ll hook you up with a dive centre I know. Good folk there!

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